12.30.08 The UofYOU
UofYOU
Recently, when watching the presidential debates I became somewhat discouraged and confused about the politicians and, well politics in general. It was then that I realized that as a country, we are looking to the television screen for someone to lead us. Furthermore, we are looking for leadership from presidential candidates wearing ear pieces! My experience of these debates was that they seemed shallow, and were lacking substance at best. Soon I asked myself, “What am I doing? Why I am looking to the TV for someone to lead me and my family? I should be looking in the mirror!”
- “Miracle Monday”: A short online video. On the second Monday of every month, me and the crew will go into the community and randomly pick someone’s life that we can make a difference in and film it to share with you. The intent? To create the energy and awareness for all of us to all do the same.
- The end-of-month First Family conference call: This is a call where I will highlight specific points from the U of YOU trainings where you can participate.
- There will be also regional, national, even international gatherings for us to come together and celebration our “Family Reunions”!
Creator, the Global First Family
U of YOU Experiences
Thank you, Ron for the U of YOU training! It was outstanding! I highly recommend it.Susana B.
This helped people to see the big picture and then to receive the big picture.Oriah S.
I have done other experiential workshops in the past and I feel that UofYOU is a powerful get to the point training that will get me on track in my life.Mary F.
Powerful. It’s something I can apply every minute of everyday. I wish everyone could come to the UofYOU.Marcie F.
Puts you in touch with your truth, your vision and a way to manifest that reality. Comfortable, safe, inspiring, and honest.Helen P.
Totally Awesome! Very Good! Co-creating power words was my favorite part. Knowing it will take practice is nice, in that I can keep shifting. J Thanks!Tiffany P.
Great-great-great! Very enlightening; nice presentation and fun. Thank you for the opportunity for me to define who I am, balanced, positive and powerful!Deanna W.
Awesome, great and wonderful! Makes you really think.
Darline P.
Great reminder and focus to reorient and reclaim what is most important!Selene
I loved sharing and the inner-searching, resulting in personal empowering and growth. Ron has a wonderful talent and we have been so blessed to have him come to our town/valley. Love and Gratitude.Jan P.
The day was wonderful. What I liked most was the small group and one-on-one interactions. I was grateful I had so much of my downline present.
Deborah D.
Reawakening of truths, and confirmation of universal love opened the door to the tools of the process in participation in life, love, and business. I will take all this with and expand with it by sharing this experience with all I cross paths with.
Cythia T.
Enlightening, empowering. Educational. Great! Kept my attention. Good mix of information and entertainment.
Sue M.
The UofYOU was a beautiful opportunity to be involved with others to wake up and reground ourselves into our intention and live for who we are.Wonderful
A lot of people could benefit from this training
Very, Very good!
Thanks for living your “purpose” Ron. I enjoyed the reminders that the workshop offered for me in my life.
Most of the best things on this world come in a simple, giving way. What I have in my heart at this moment is hope which I believe is lacking in so many ways in society. Just to wake up and be grateful for what we have. Just to remember that is today the most powerful moment. Just to see the good within and face the stones on my path is more than what I expected.
02.08.08 What Happy Valley is saying about Happy Valley
Gideon Burton’s Blog
All 700 of us raised our hands. All of us who had just seen Happy Valley, the documentary about drug abuse in Utah that screened at the LDS Film Festival last night. Filmmaker Ron Williams simply asked during the Q&A if someone close to us had a drug abuse problem. We are mostly Utahns and mostly Mormons and yes, our friends and family members suffer from the blight of drug abuse. It was sobering.I have a great respect for films and filmmakers using the medium to address serious issues. I saw it two years ago with the sobering film Propensity, reaching out to the suicidal, and last year with Samuel Adams’ early-return missionary doc, Returning With Honor (about which I’ve previously blogged). You can tell the difference between this sort of films and others because the discussion after the festival screenings is not about distribution or film careers but about reaching out to those suffering.
And so I find myself more forgiving of films that have aesthetic problems (as both Propensity and Returning With Honor did). Happy Valley, as a doc, has some real problems, aesthetic and ethical. I want to bring some of them up. But at a certain point it doesn’t matter because this film is doing some good.
My son rose early this morning to get to the high school for something. Though tired from the late evening at the festival, I jumped to my feet to have a quick conversation with him before he left. I asked him about drugs at our high school–the same high school where one of my neighbors began his descent into heroin a few years back. That man is just out of rehab. Seven of his classmates are dead from overdoses. Why hadn’t I ever talked about this issue with my son? So I’m glad for a movie to prompt me in this way. And I respect the brave film subjects who were so candid about their difficulties.
This film begins as a critique of Utah (Mormon) culture and how the very religion that gives its inhabitants postive family values positively leads them to hide deep problems and indulge in private addictions–especially prescription drug abuse. Shocking statistics are announced throughout the film about Utahns and drug abuse, and part of this film wants to be an expose. Luckily it does not follow that track as vigorously as the down-to-earth and painful stories of various families and individuals victimized by drugs. I’m all for bringing attention to real problems, but the film plays fast and loose with its statistics and their interpretation. For example, as one social scientist explained it to me, the reason that more anti-depressants are prescribed in Utah than anywhere else is that more people are seeking help for mental health issues and not self-medicating through alcohol, etc. That didn’t show up in the movie.
Nor was there any acknowledgment whatsoever of the tremendous efforts made both locally and generally by the LDS Church to address addictions of all sorts and to provide social services for their treatment. Not only is the problem addressed frankly and frequently from a spiritual vantage point by church leaders (such as Elder Dallin H. Oaks ‘ October 2006 General Conference address, “He Heals the Heavy Laden” or the article pointedly addressed to youth in the New Era magazine by former physician Elder Russell M. Nelson, “The Message: Addiction or Freedom”), but the church has taken enormous practical measures to treat the problem (see the church’s Addiction Recovery Program and this article about it at Meridian Magazine or this recent Ensign article addressing it, and especially all the addiction recovery support groups listed by the church on its provident living website along with contact info for local LDS Family Services agencies).
As a bishop, I’ve personally assisted three different heroin addicts and one meth addict in the last couple of years, and this has included providing ecclesiastical and professional counseling, recovery group services, medication, legal assistance, extremely costly rehab treatment, consultations with medical doctors, family interventions and counseling of affected family members, re-employment efforts through the church’s Deseret Industries (where drug felons actually do get a second chance to be retrained and rehabilitated) and a whole lot of social support from loving neighbors and ward members (typically to people who never even attend services). This gets paid for through the local fast offering program, not through any government agency. Our church is an imperfect one, but one would be hard pressed to make a case that it has not been extremely organized, active, and successful in both working to prevent addictions and heal them when they happen.
So it was a bit hard for me to watch the cheap shots at Mormons (as though the faith does more to produce addicts than to significanty prevent and meaningfully heal addictions). As someone in the trenches working with people to get to these resources and extremely grateful for an organization that is so committed to helping people, I find it a little glib for these filmmakers to have their subjects describe an active Relief Society member hooked on narcotics or drop casual comments about Mormons needing to look in the mirror more and not through windows at other people. The film’s executive producer was much applauded after the film for having engineered interviews at the prison, etc., apparently pulling strings as a bishop himself to arrange these. Being so close to the film, why on earth, I asked myself, wouldn’t he at least go on record regarding what the church is actively doing to address these problems?
But the film really doesn’t follow up on its initial trajectory of critiquing either the church or Utah culture, and the “Happy Valley” title really is a bad fit. That term is often used to refer specifically to Utah Valley, far more Mormon in its character than the more mixed and cosmopolitan Salt Lake City, but the film subjects were mostly in Salt Lake and obviously included lapsed and non-Mormons. By the end of the film a statement appears that this story could have been about any place, the drug problem being so general, so the “what’s in your Jell-O?” tag (and playfully ironic publicity image) come across as a cheap shot to accompany the misleading title.
The film should have given up its social critique pretenses and stuck with its strength, the individual stories of broken families and broken lives and the filmmaker’s very positive relatinoship with them. But happily, I think those are the enduring aspects of the film. To his credit, Williams began the project simply by pointing a home movie camera at his suffering ex-wife, and soon a tragic tale unfolds of how his step-daughter, Macall, distanced from her mother, thought shooting up with her would draw them closer. Now Macall is in prison for the negligent homocide of her best friend, Amelia, whose brief experiment with narcotics killed her. The most affecting sequences are those with Amelia’s parents–being interviewed by Williams, the step-father of the girl who brought about the death of their own daughter. Williams, breaking documentary tradition of silent observation, urges these parents to forgive. A brave move. They resist, but in the end, they do. In a prison visit scene a guard unlocks the chains that keep Macall in her seat so that a hug can be exchanged along with forgiveness between her best friend’s grieving mother and herself. The film works that way, too, unlocking the chains of denial and helping people to be brave enough to own up to these disastrous problems.
So I want to forgive what I see as some ethical lapses in the film. Repairing lives is messy, and everyone of good will is needed in the battle. People should see Happy Valley, forgive its shortcomings and occasional preachiness, then look around their families and neighborhoods and dare to stand up, reach out, and help.
Comments
Thanks for the review. It does sound like the film would be more successful artistically and ethically if it hadn’t been specifically targeting Happy Valley. The marketing poster is so explicitly Utah Valley that it’s odd the Utah Valley aspect ends up being–from what it sounds–incidental to the main issue of drug abuse. Other than trying to specifically draw Mormons to this particular issue, I have to wonder why the film was marketed as it was (and if it’s another example of Mormonsploitation). Perhaps that’s justification enough? To draw Mormons to this issue?
Dear Mr. Burton,
I was forwarded your blog by a student at BYU. It is about the movie that I made, Happy Valley, at the LDS Film Festival. I was touched that the next morning you created such a beautiful experience with your son. I also acknowledge you as a Bishop for your faith and commitment to church service.
Realizing that I am one of the film makers, I may be “too close” to the movie to give an objective response. On the other hand, being too close may not be such a bad thing. Having endured all of the hands-on interaction with so many good families devastated from drug abuse, I can speak from a place of experience, not just spiritual, but emotional, financial, physical and whatever else that was left in me. I saw death, theft, deception, transformation, depression, hopelessness and even spiritual awakenings. These are your neighbors and mine from Ogden to Provo. This would also be a good time to clarify your unethical mix of words. I noticed how you often used the word “Utahn” as if it was synonymous with the word “Mormon.” Interesting that you hear “Mormon”, when you hear “Utahn”, when we all know there are approximately one million non-Mormons living in our state who are also God’s children, alive and well. Having experienced the making of this movie, I would be nothing more than a hypocrite to go and bury my head in the sand and be in denial. I was moved that you created a conversation with your son the morning after viewing the movie. Let me say I am not perfect, and have my own “Jello” issues in life to bear. But like you, I am a member of the church, believing in Christ, and that is my “come from” in this letter.
In addition to that, I am a CEO and Chairman of a worldwide publicly-traded company in. I have paid for this movie myself. Yet the proceeds of this movie are going to willing participants in this great state (Mormon or non-Mormon) for addiction recovery. I was taken by your blog that left me feeling that non-Mormons hardly exist.
If there is anything I have learned it is the importance of truth. You reference that our statewide anti-depressant problem is more of an issue of admittance than it is denial. How then do you explain the fact that we top the national average in suicide in every age group? Or, are we just more honest in our resolve to take our own lives here in Utah? The last thing we need is another “spin” in the name of denial. In times past, I have run my own business disconnected from the facts and have paid for it. But where lives are at stake, your damage control is unacceptable and unethical, and it falls into the reason we why made this movie… denial. You make reference that the characters in the movie are mainly from Salt Lake County and not Utah County, when four out of the five main characters, live right here in Utah County (Danny, Nancy, Chris “Greg” and Macall.) The Sorich family lives in Salt Lake. The other two stories referenced, the Berger’s and the Ballinghams live in either Salt Lake City or Ogden, by design. Yet, in the same breath, you freely admit that seven of your son’s classmates here in Utah County have recently died from drug overdoses. Confusing.
These are real children of God, your brothers and sisters and mine. Members of the church, non-members of the church, active and inactive, they are all children of God. I choose to connect to the facts for what they are and take responsibility. What happens to them, member or not, happens to me.
The comments you made about the producer who happens to be a Bishop like you, I want to clarify, has NEVER used that title in making this movie. He could have been an Atheist and created the same results. I chose, Thursday night (in the context of the LDS Film Festival) to refer to him as ‘Bishop’ because the ward in which he resides over filled the first eight rows of the theater. They were so proud of his contributions to the movie and his contributions to the community, to both members and non-members. I find it interesting that you have quickly jumped to a high and mighty judgment of this great man without knowing the facts. If you are going to blame anyone for referring to him as ‘Bishop’ that night, blame me, not him. I am like you; I don’t believe that a temple recommend is a legal form of I.D. at Costco.
Another observation, you say the movie takes “cheap shots” at the church, and that it critiques Mormons (again, you’re confusing Utahns with Mormons) when we have a non-Mormon in the beginning of the movie say that he loves the values of the LDS religion. Isn’t it funny how sometimes we only hear what we want to? The movie also says specifically, and I quote, “this is not a church problem.” Maybe you were out buying popcorn during that part. You give a specific quote that the movie says “Mormons need to look in the mirror more and not looking through the windows at other people”, but as it is stated in the movie, one recovering addict (who has every right to state his opinion) says “People in this state need to start looking in the mirror, and stop looking through the windows.” Funny how you mislead the readers into thinking this was a comment about Mormons, and away from the truth.
What was I supposed to do, whenever we used the words “Utahns”? Follow it with “except Mormons”? That would be unethical. Actually, it would be the big elephant in this chat room. A lie. I choose to live in Utah. I love raising my family in our high morals, principles and values. I am only suggesting that we root them in reality. Truth. How can we take full responsibility when we are in denial? Truth is very empowering. Weren’t we warned in the scriptures that all is not well in Zion? My experience in making this movie was that we are screaming for openness in communication… help, support, acceptance, unconditional love, and ultimately, forgiveness.
Whatever your interpretation of the movie was, especially in referring to it as unethical, it is a movie about these things, namely unconditional love and forgiveness. You may recall, at the Q and A session after the movie, when I said we still had 40 plus hours of footage of other families that we couldn’t squeeze in. I also said that as a viewer, you may or may not agree with each of the real life characters and their opinions. But who are we to judge? I continued by saying that addiction indiscriminately crosses all boundaries of race, religion, economic status, gender, and age. We purposely put people of ALL walks of life in this movie… Mormons, non-Mormons, black, white, young, old, rich, poor, etc… basically, citizens of Utah. But what I hear you saying is something different. I hear you scarcely defending our beliefs in the context of Mormon citizens. Aren’t our beliefs in the gospel those of love and abundance, not fear, scarcity and defense?
Happy Valley was the number one grossing movie at this festival. Maybe perhaps there was a reason for that. Rather than unethical, the number one feedback we get is that it is real and honest, and not oozing with too much idealism. Or more so, people struggling with addiction are searching for more than therapy in, or out of church. They are looking for that bridge of acceptance. Each of us has an opportunity to put our arms around them. These are usually good people that just have bad habits.
I was clear in the Q and A that it is next to impossible to conquer addiction without prayer and spiritual intervention. So why did I write this comment to your blog? To say again, that it is not a church issue. Cultural issue? Debatable. But who am I to spend my time judging, when I have hands to help? Like you, I am just one person. Yet, even through small things, one person can change the world everyday. So, Mr. Burton, I respect you as a brother, and I am sure you are a great man and leader. I feel uncomfortable repeating your high and mighty words, but I forgive you for your untrue play on words and I sense that your intentions are good.
I prayed before writing this letter that I don’t come across high and mighty with the need to be right. Maybe there are imperfections in the movie, just like there are imperfections in you and me. And maybe in the Mormon cinema, we are talking to each other too much. Most of the accounts of Jesus were him riding his donkey to reach out and touch non-believers. This is not a Mormon movie. This is a movie for all of God’s children, so whether it is being shown at the LDS Film Festival or in another global location, the reviews indicate that it is a spiritual experience in the context of addiction in the state of Utah, and NOT a movie about ‘Mormon addictions’. We have privately screened this film is five countries, to nearly 5,000 people in all walks of life. We have polled audiences in each area and asked them to rate the movie on a scale of 1-10. Approximately 97 out of 100 people give it a 10. I invite you any time to come and see these survey sheets, physically. Thank you for doing what you do, and recommending our film. We are Mormon filmmakers, heeding a calling outside of our own, to reach out indiscriminately, hoping to create spiritual awakenings, looking for more spiritual experiences and less cultural experiences. We are happy to announce also, Happy Valley’s PG-13 rating, due to subject matter only. Currently, we are even rearranging our busy schedules as we have been asked by high profile government officials (who are keenly aware of the state-wide facts) to tour the whole state of Utah from high profile government officials (who are keenly aware of the state-wide facts) with a message of health, hope, and Happy Valley. It will truly be a labor of love. Even Mark Shurtleff, Utah State Attorney General said, “Happy Valley is a must-see, honest experience.”
All in all, we did this movie to give people in our great state a reason to start talking openly… a way to start expressing themselves, rather than mute their feelings with anti-depressants, prescription or street drugs, or even suicide.
I hope you don’t feel like this letter is confrontational, but rather it is in keeping with our commitment of truth and openness from the beginning of the making of this film. Your posting of this blog is symbolic of our commitments to openness, truth, communication, and even our own imperfections. Case and point, you created a conversation with your son, and we opened communication through this blog. God bless you.
With Love,
Ron Williams,
Director of Happy Valley
www.ronwilliams.org
P.S. For those who don’t understand the play on Jello in the movie, the movie points out that we all have many positive statistics in Utah, so much so, we even lead the nation in Jello consumption. So the phrase “What’s in your Jello” is another way of asking “what is your cross to bear?” or, “what conversations are you having, or not having?” Addiction goes beyond drugs. You can be addicted to many things, i.e. food, money, porn, control, drama, emotions, gambling, steroids… it was meant to be fun, and has been so far. Recently, at American Fork high school, a young 13-year-old boy cried as he was touched by Happy Valley. He stood up and addressed the whole audience in the Q and A after the movie and said, “I love this movie, and I want to ask the audience one thing… what’s in your Jello?” Also interesting to note, how Jello always comes in a particular mold. I submit to you, that we are all so different from each other, different shapes, sizes, likes, dislikes, talents. It is ok to be different… it’s called INDIVIDUALITY. We don’t need to shape ourselves into an ‘accepted mold’. It is time we put more focus on ‘being’ as much or more so than we do on ‘doing.’ But in the end, we are equally beautiful, glorious and godlike, we just all sometimes forget.
These opinions are those of Ron Williams, and may or may not be the opinions of others involved in the making of Happy Valley.
Ron,
I appreciate your explaining your perspective. I haven’t seen the film (I live in Seattle), but I will keep those points in mind if I ever do see it. I do think you’re being a little touchy about Gideon’s comment. It appears that some aspects of the film didn’t come across as clearly as you would have wished them to (”it’s about Utah, not just Mormons”). Well, okay. Maybe that means you’ll be a little more explicit when you do show the film in schools, etc. It’s difficult with a labor of love to see it criticized–but it’s also not fair to Gideon to slam him with remarks about his “unethical mix of words” (he only said “Utahn” twice, not “often”[1], and in one case it was clearly _not_ synonymous with “Mormon”) and accusations of bias (”Isn’t it funny how sometimes we only hear what we want to?”). He’s speaking as a film critic, which means looking at technical details of execution, acknowledging them, and maybe liking the film in spite of its little flaws. I think Gideon’s final words intentionally parallel how we should view our suffering friends:
“So I want to forgive what I see as some ethical lapses in the film. Repairing lives is messy, and everyone of good will is needed in the battle. People should see Happy Valley, forgive its shortcomings and occasional preachiness, then look around their families and neighborhoods and dare to stand up, reach out, and help.”
Anyway, Ron, sounds like you guys put your heart and soul into the movie and are going to help a lot of people. Nice work so far!
-Max
[1] Oh yeah, the footnote.
Pirate King: “I didn’t repeat the word often.”
Major General: “Pardon me, but you did indeed.”
PK: “I only repeated it ONCE!”
MG: “True, but you repeated it.”
PK: “But not often!”
-Gilbert & Sullivan
Thank you Max,
Your point is well taken. From the human level, I am totally in alignment with your comment. My response was more on a professional level, simply reporting the facts. Telling the truth.
Certainly as a critic, Mr. Burton is permitted to share whatever his experience was in viewing Happy Valley. He can say he hated it, but at least tell his readers the truth.
Fortunately, Happy valley has legs of its own. I was a little ‘up in arms’ at the discription “unethical” when he reported things incorrectly and gently accused our producer for using his calling to help make the movie, and then forgave us for the ethics of the movie and preachiness. WOW.
My experience of his blog was the pot calling the kettle black. I am still curious to know what was so unethical about the movie. If there is an issue of ethics, I would be the first to fix it before it comes out in theaters in March.
I am concerned on how we would explain Mr. Burtons’s comments on ethics to the brave members of the movie who may or may not see his blog. Or my daughter who has found a passion at 13 to help prevent drug abuse in her school.
Anyhow, no matter how you look at it, it’s all good. Thank you for your taking the time to express yourself and I truly appreciate the peacemaker in you. If you give me a mailing address, it would be an honor to share my copy of the film with you, as I believe it may shed some light on this conversation for you having not seen the movie yet. You can get me direct at www.ronwilliams.org and it will be in the mail that day.
Love and prayers, Ron
I’ve seen “Happy Valley” at least 3 times now (only once in Utah) and each time it has moved me to tears. One word describes how I felt after seeing the movie…WOW! I don’t live in Utah, nor am I Mormon, but it touched me on a very personal level within my own family and some very dear friends. The feel I got watching this movie had nothing to do w/pointing the finger at a certain area or religious group. The fact that it was in Utah and those involved were Mormon didn’t even enter into the equation to me. Why focus totally on that? These were families, friends, and real people, not some actors playing a part. Let’s focus on the real issue the movie was getting across. It has to do with the denial of the serious drug problem (legal/illegal) in this country, the senseless loss of human life-all who have incredible potential, and the pain, physically and emotionally, that everyone (family, friends, co-workers) goes thru. I work in a high school and I see many who are in denial because of the fear, shame or accountability associated w/acknowledgment of drug abuse. I felt that the movie made us all take off “the blinds” and accept the fact that there is an issue here that needs to be addressed. I’d like to commend Ron on being willing to step “out of the box”, making this movie despite the consequence and personal heartache he may have faced and truly coming from a desire to help not condemn. I’d like to also say thanks for those who were all willing to be a part of this film and the courage it took on each of their parts to be that vulnerable and willing to bear their very souls. Sometimes we need to be faced with the true devastation that affects everyone involved, instead of thinking “it won’t ever happen to me”. I personally would love to see this movie shown in every middle school and high school across the country. If seeing “Happy Valley” saves just one person, young or old, from starting or continuing down that road of drug abuse, it has truly accomplished its purpose.
I look forward to when I can see this film and have been following it’s progress. Too many things are unspoken or ignored in “Happy Valley”. I lived there for 13 years and had 2 of my 4 kids deeply into drugs. Unfortunatly our bishops never offered help. But we got through it by tremendous family unity and a lot of personal work. We have left the church since then(after 40 years) not due to that mind you and not in anger… just a following of that personal inspiration the church so much talks about… but I know many in it who have and still suffer with this issue. I had an LDS older woman tell me that half the woman in her ward were on Valium just to cope. How sad.
Thank you for confronting an issue straight on, and not being afraid to speak with honesty. That gets folks in hot water sometimes… but it appears you have stuck a strong chord of truth that it will not be stiffiled. And in either case, integrity prevails.
Much continuted success… and here’s hoping it gets to Arkansas… if not I’ll wait for the DVD release!
Nancy
I just wanted to add that My wife and I saw this movie at a convention in Salt lake City last march.
We had just got involved with the company Ron Williams is Chairman and CEO of.
And I must say, that this movie and the commitment that Ron and the people involved with this company showed, are the main reason we are still involved with this company.
This great man, whom I believe god has chosen to be one of his disciples here on this planet, shows the same kind of unselfish desire to help all people in all walks of life through his current company.
I don’t personally know this man, although I had the privilege to shake his hand last march, but I believe this is one of the most caring individuals I have ever met.
At the showing of this movie last March, I dare say, there were very few dry eyes in the very large room.
My wife and I are not Mormons, we are from a different faith, who believe in God and the Bible, and I must say in all fairness, That not once did I think this was about any religion. I felt this was about a small town in somewhere USA. And I thought it was about some caring individuals who had the Guts to stand up and admit their short comings and who wanted help and got it.
Thanks in advance that Our very loving God has, through Ron Williams and his crew, helped this movie become a realty for all the people this movie is going to save.
And I can’t wait to see the movie again and purchace several copies of this film to give to people in need
Mort Castleton
Ron,
Sure, I’d love to see the film and maybe show it to some friends. My email is wilson.max@gmail.com, my mailing address is 15606 NE 40th St. #L146, Redmond, WA, 98052.
About the “unethical” bit: I’m beginning to see your point. You feel like due diligence was not done on the part of the film critic, prior to making comments. Hmmm. I guess I can’t have an opinion on that without seeing the film first.
[Of course, we’re all aware that “ethical” for a professional activity refers not to intentions (that would be moral/immoral) but to conformance with standards of conduct generally associated with that profession. I.e. it can mean “unprofessional” just as easily as “dishonest,” and it’s possible to be unethical accidentally.]
-Max
Happy Valley is a film anyone and everyone should see if they get the chance. It’s an honest film that will certainly help anyone who is struggling with a problem by showing them that love, forgivness, and compassion on all sides are the most important things that will heal the imperfections we all have. I’ve seen this documentary three times, and each time I watch it I am reminded that the beauty of life is in the struggles we face each day. This movie will raise awareness to an important issue that needs to be addressed. And even if you agree with or disagree with how the material is presented, I believe everyone will want to do something about solving the problem.
Ron, i don’t know if you remember me, but i was at American Fork High School at a free screening. I honestly appreciate what you have done, i don’t think it was aimed at “Mormons” for lack of better terms, and i honestly think people are afraid of truth in this state. I have tried to discuss this film with other people, and they try to tell me that we don’t have a drug problem in this state, with that said, they kind of proved my point. Anyway I read your really long, novel like comment to that other guy and i say well said. No offense to the people around here, but I’ve lived here my whole life, and ive noticed were a little bit too dogmatic. So Thank you ron, your a breath of fresh air to talk to.
I am working on the front line with regards to substance abuse. Richard Green (Chaplain of the Utah County Sheriff Dept) and I run the Utah County Reentry Assistance program. We help inmates reenter society. Our program is backed by the Utah County Continuum Care Board (Wasatch Mental Health, Utah County Division of Substance Abuse, Dept. of Workforce Services, Voc Rehab, Housing Authority of Utah County, Deseret Industries, Food and Care Coalition and the United Way). All of our clients have had substance abuse issues at the root of their legal problems. In addition, I host a substance abuse support group. I am beginning to get my finger on the pulse of the problem in Utah County. If I may make a couple of statements regarding the movie Happy Valley.
First, regarding the sensitivity toward the LDS church. I have showed the movie to the Staff and Clients at both Utah County Division of Substance Abuse and at the House of Hope treatment centers. In both cases, the staff was moved and have been actively promoting the movie to all who will listen. The overwhelming majority of the staff in both centers are LDS. I have not heard one comment regarding feelings of their religion being attacked. Again, they are actively looking for ways to get this movie into as many places as possible.
Second, it has been my experience that this movie breaks down barriers in many areas. Between the Law and the Criminal, Doctor and Patient, Child and Parent regardless of religious affiliation. This movie even works for the ADDICT. To see the passion in which Dr. Gray, and the Narcotics Officer address this issue gives the addict hope that people are concerned and really do want to understand their dilemma. In my opinion, this movie brings healing to all who view it and draws people closer together.
Finally, regarding the efforts of the LDS church on the topic of rehabilitation. There have been LDS, “12 step” support groups springing up all over Utah County. I am sure that they are doing much good. However, they, as I do, have to allow those in attendance to return to their lives of struggling with addiction. When faced with the need to place someone in an In-patient setting, their options are few, and very expensive. Most, if not all are secular programs and the success rates are not very good. I, for one would love to see the church build, and staff affordable, not for profit long term rehab centers that use the latest science techniques anchored in spirituality. I know of the perfect model, if anyone is interested.
Most of all, I am thrilled that this conversation is taking place. Only good can come from it.
Sincerely,
Charles
Yeah I thought Happy Valley was a very creative name for the film, and I have no idea how the film “attacks” the LDS church. Im sorry its just im sick of people especially in utah county trying to bury truth within the church itself, its past, and about the people. That is kind of why im an inactive member as of right now because the people keep burying the truth, or twisting it for that matter. So yeah the film does have a point it could have been filmed anywhere in the world….but you decided to do it here, to expose truth. Thanks again Ron
I am pleased to be associated with the LDS Church and also have the pleasure of knowing Mr. Williams. I have known this man for two years now. I have been on his softball team, I am his co-worker, and feel his friendship for all individuals alike. I am also a BYU student. One of the reasons that I forward this to Mr. Williams was because this blog expressed the outer thinking of Professor Burton, an LDS Bishop. The thoughts and comments of both these men have inspired hundreds if not thousands to get help. I truly appreciate the service these men render to our town and community.
I was first impressed that this film touched Bishop Burton so much that he spoke to his son the next morning about drugs. That to me is the miracle of the movie. If you do not like anything about the movie, even if you hate it, that is fine. But if you wake up the next morning and realize that you must talk about drugs to your kids then you have experienced a miracle. I am soon to be a father, which I am very excited for, and to know that drugs will affect my children’s lives worries me. Seven of Bishop Burton’s sons friends have overdosed. That is scary. That is happening here in Utah County, our own back yard.
I see both sides of the story because when I first heard of this movie I had just returned from my Mission. I came back thinking, “Now that I am in Utah, I am safe and I have nothing to worry about”. I came home to a completely different Utah. I left a place where I felt safe, I felt welcomed, I felt liked and appreciated. I came back to a place where people seemed more distant, more dark, more worried. Everyone wants to be a have millions and have everything in the world, with no responsibility.
The following is coming from my own personal perspective of LDSism and because I am a convert. Whenever I have sinned, I have felt worried, alone, ashamed, and scared. I did not want to go to the Bishop to tell him anything. I worried about what the members of the ward would think, I worried about what the Bishop would say, I worried about what would happen. (I never did anything really bad, but I still worried.)
This movie focuses on these fears and on the pressures that we instill upon ourselves. One issue that I wish everyone understands from reading all these comments is the following. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO SEEK HELP.
Though I was always afraid to know what would happen, I faithfully went to the Bishop to seek counsel on my transgressions. Bishop Burton makes it clear that the Church wants to help, and Mr. Williams makes it clear that people should ask.
That is why I believe that this Blog should be spread to everyone, everywhere. Because the church has set up a wonderful organization that is based on true and good principles. Because the Government has establish places of refuge and rehabilitation. But mainly because TELLING PEOPLE YOU NEED HELP IS OK. We need to overlook our own pride and fear and turn to our brothers and sisters and say, “I love you, how may I help you.”
This movie is a labor of love and speaks out, loud and clear, “WE LOVE YOU, LET US HELP!!!”
This movie was shown at my school and it was an amazing experience for our student body to see this and see how this kind of stuff happens in our sheltered home of Utah. Most of us grew up sheltered thinking that because Utah has so many LDS people that this kind of thing doesn’t happen, because of that there are so many people that fall into drugs easier! It was a very good awakening for us! i am very thankful for this movie and the impact it has made on my friends and I
Secrets that remain secrets take a personal tole on all the lives which are touched by someone who is struggling. We are not perfect and need to shout that message a loud as possible in order for others not to be so hard on themselves.
The problems associated with perfectionisn and criticalness are only part of the reasons for the high rate of drug addiction in our valley, but none the less play a part. Only by speaking out about our pain and struggle can we honestly find the answers to resolving the terrible problem that has snuck into this valley and is eating up our young people and older citizens as well. People who just go with the flow and don’t stop and ask questions are more apt to find themselves caught in the trap of drug addiction. Thank You Ron Williams and others who took part in exposing a very painful truth about ourselves that can in turn serve to help others.
Love You,
Judy Price
One of the most heatfelt movies I have ever seen. I loved it
Ron:
I watched “
Enough said.
Thanks
Mr. Holmes
Coming out of the Film you created, I was in tears. I don’t think there was a single person not in tears. Tears of emotion, questioning and hope!
What a surprise then to see you there in reality just after having witnessed your stand to help in a situation where the only hope is human warmth, courage and love! Sorry for not being more communicative then.
I want to congratulate you on your film! I don’t think I have ever watched a movie where the words truth, help and hope stand out so clearly. There is more than enough documentaries that have a incredible depiction of reality and the problems. My view on them was mostly:” ok so you have defined the problems. now you put us in despair, and give us no solution” That is what I found amazing about your film: people can change and help other people to change! Thank you for reminding us so truthfully of that.
I am Swiss citizen who has come over to work in
I truly believe that by talking and most of all listening and helping, loved ones we can help them. We are not super humans we make mistakes and this is the hardest part for anyone to accept. By understanding that and that others make mistakes too, there is no reason to think that forgiveness and understanding cannot make life a better place.
As a scientist your film has brought up for me one of the most interesting aspect of being human: what drives us? what makes us turn? We have certainly gone away from just reproduction. So in a world of plenty what drives each individual? This question drives teenagers crazy, it also drives every human being to ask himself what it is that makes him unique? For me to understand the biology of this question is something fascinating but it is a small part of my fascination for what drives humanity.
In short, thank you for the images, the message of help and hope, and the stand you take in life: to make people think about their stand in life!
Warmest regards,
Fred H.
I saw your movie this evening! Great Work! My wife is a licensed social worker and I feel this needs to be in the library of all social workers, for their education and the education of their clients. I really enjoyed the movie and feel it will make a difference in the world. I admire your passion to make a difference! My wife and I have a passion and high expectations to affect change in many lives, especially the younger generation. Take Care! I hope to have future opportunities to associate. I feel so honor to have meet the man who put this masterpiece together!
Robert & Kasia
Hi Ron,
I just wanted to thank you so much for your film
After the show today you were outside meeting people I think that is SO SO great what you are doing. We need more people like you in the world. Once again thank you.
Sincerly, Cesilee
Ron
I just watched your fantastic movie…I can’t express to you how much it meant to me to see it and feel it. I lost my brother in 1993 to a heroin OD, in his case it was not a drug he took voluntarily and sadly did not even know he was to die so young, his death is still unresolved after months of investigations. If all the tragedy I have witnessed isn’t enough my own daughter was spared by fate just a few years ago. She had entered college early, in fact she graduated on a Friday and entered college two days later. While there she localized at the many pubs in
I want to help if I can. I returned to
I will send you the clips from my daughter’s nightmare which I will add hit the paper big time in
By the way I am not Mormon, I am Greek Orthodox imagine that in
Let me know what I can do to help….just a note.. I was part of the 60’s culture, I will leave it there except to say a good friend saved my life by stepping in for me before it went too far. I would do that for anyone if I could.
Pari L.
Is there a soundtrack to the film? We loved the music.
How long will it be playing in theaters?
Thanks for making such an important film!
Scott and Sheryl
Parents of an addicted son.
Ron,
I want to thank you for your film, we’ve been living this opiate addiction with our 18 yr old son. We live in
Ron,
I am glad that you put out this movie and have taken on this project. I have had close loved ones struggle with addictions also. You don’t know what it’s like to watch some one you love self destruct, until you have had to do it. It’s also nice to see that you have done well for your self. Congrats on the new marriage and good luck with the new multi-level company and the movie.
Blessed Be,
Sonda
Just got out of seeing your film an hour ago. I can’t stop thinking about it. I have already called my friends and family and told them that they need to see this film. What an amazing creation that you were able to piece together. The things that you portray with such delicacy in this film are simply remarkable. It’s a film that is very gritty in the reality of the problem, yet you made it soft enough, that a family could go see it together. My sister is a recovering Heroin addict. She is trying to make good, partially cause she is now pregnant and kind of has too, but at the same time I watched her slip away and could do nothing about it at the time. She moved married her boyfriend, also a drug addict, they moved away and did drugs together and then the relationship got violent. They got a divorce. She went to rehab. In her case it just gave her some new friends to get drugs from when she got out. She moved to
Thanks again.
Tyson R.
Ron:
Thank you for
I loved the humor in the film. I loved Ron. He’s amazing! The comic relief was so well done, and appreciated when other parts of the movie were so gut-wrenchingly sad. I appreciate that the
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Joy B.
I just watched
I thought it was excellent, ….(and hey…how bout that single guy? haha)
If you could please let me know if the movie can be purchased, and how to get my hands on one-or-two I would really appreciate it!
Thank you!
Carie
Six or seven months ago I decided to research the possibility of starting a business online. You can imagine the frustrations that I hit trying to find something that i believed in as well as being able to promote. Well, suffice to say that I literally (or was directed to) stumbled upon ForeverGreen. I decided to become a distributor and started to try the products. Now I see that the choice was there already as the more and more I find out about you as a person and not as “THE” president who is not like all the others, I must say that I am VERY impressed.
Now I will jump ahead a little and say that i just purchased some tickets for
Just from one small town Canadian to YOU Ron Great Work and keep it going!!!!
If I can be put on a news list or e-mail list please feel free to do it as I will accept all newsletters from you….
Garth H.
Ron,
Hi, my name is Adnan H. Can’t wait to see your movie, prescription drugs effect a lot of kids at my school. Your next documentary should be on the rave scene in
Ron,
I want to congratulate you on making your Happy Valley film and how outstanding I think it is that you are passionate about educating the people of this area of such an epidemic. My name is Erin Overly, I am 23 years old, and I live by Cascade Golf. My struggle with addiction began at the age of 19 and I’ve fought tooth and nail for my sobriety and health. I would love to be more involved with anything in your organization, I also am very passionate about awareness on such an important subject. I’m involved with LDS family services and their panels they hold for adopting families because I am a birth mother who placed a baby with a family and speak about that experience and also drug addiction. I admire your conviction. I strive to always be more involved with any cause that educates about such a devastating plague our children will be facing for many years. Keep up the good work!
Ron:
to know “what Ron Williams is up to now!”
Best of luck with all you’re doing!
I haven’t seen the movie yet, but I’ll be going, eagerly, this weekend when it opens to theatrical release. I found out about it from my clients because I am currently the acupuncture specialist for the
Lake County Drug Court
significant percentage of the folks I see are prescription drug abusers who’ve never even been anywhere near meth or crack or heroin and would never have even considered it before getting into problems with their meds. Just thought you’d be interested in the fact that it’s the clients themselves that are
talking about the movie, and not just a couple of them. They’re talking about it a lot. And the comments are invariably along the lines of “Finally somebody is talking about US!” They are seeing themselves in it, and it’s helping.
I look greatly forward to seeing the film and I thank
you in advance for what you are doing.
Brent O, L.Ac.
First and foremost thanks for inviting us to the premier of the film. I thought the film was poignant and impactful. Moreover I thought the reception of the film was tremendous and look forward to watching your effort grow. Incidentally, we will have a poster in the front picture window of the clinic facing 700 East in
Lastly, in going on the KSL website to check out the bust described at the Premier I saw the film report and clip. Your posters are conspicuously missing the pills in the jello, I guess the façade continues.
Mike D.
Psychotherapy & Clinical
UT
Ron,
I just watched
That’s my quick little bio. I know a little bit about your organization but not as much as I should. From what I know however, I am interested in getting involved if you think I could be of any value. I’m not really looking for a job as I have two of those already. I’m not sure how I think I would fit in, but i enjoy public speaking and I think my experience and story might help others. If you feel that I might be able to help you or your organization in any way please feel free to contact me. If not, then I understand and wish you personally and your organization the best because I think you are really trying to make this world a better place.
Sincerely,
Terry S. M.D.
Ron,
I thought you might be interested in a bill that I passed this last session to improve the reporting of the sale of controlled substances. Let me know if you would like to find out more about it.
Brad Daw
Ron,
Hey I just want to know how we can purchase the movie and when we can cause this movie has gave me some answers thank you so much for the opportunity to listen to your speech at the
Sincerely, Paige
Ron,
Cameron W.
I wanted to contact you to congratulate you on all your success in the many important areas of your focus. The environment is of such great concern to me and it’s refreshing to see someone in
I just wanted to say that it’s good to hear that you’re doing so well. I’m looking forward to seeing
All my best,
Nina
Hi Ron,
First, I would like to congratulate you on a great film reflecting the tremendous addiction concerns here in
Dave J., LSAC
Ron,
I spoke with you on the Night Side Project last week–a phone call just won’t do. Thank you so much for doing this movie and for doing it so well. I’ve heard almost all of your radio interviews and, for the first time ever on the radio, I felt that someone was covering all the angles and perspectives that I have. I usually feel the need to call in on a show when an idea or aspect of an issue is not being fully represented or if they’re missing something, but not this time, you’ve done such a great job that I just wanted to call in to say thanks.
What amazes me more is how objective you are. I get very heated up over this issue and start blaming my church for not doing enough and my arguments become tainted with anger and bias and I become bitter. Your attitude towards all this has been a great example to me. THANK YOU!
Now let’s do all we can to help our brothers and sisters everywhere.
Respectfully, Steve H.
Hello Ron,
Just saw your movie last night at the Riverbottoms. Very good job–thank you for caring enough to stand and make a difference! I’m a recovering addict with nine years clean and sober, and I still go to 3-6 meetings a week to keep my sobriety and sanity. But this isn’t about me. I have a concern about Amelia Sorich: after seeing the movie, I’m not sure the whole story is known (particularly by her parents). I’m also unsure that anyone really needs to uncover any more of the past, especially that the healing process is apparently well underway. But this is what I know: I was in a 12-Step CA meeting at the Cirque in
Anyway, please keep up the good work! Let me know if I can ever be of any assistance to you or anyone else.
Sincerely,
Mark M.
It’s been many years since we last talked. I wanted to drop you an email to tell you how your film has affected me.
I don’t know if you recall, but last time I saw you I was going through a divorce. The underlying cause? Prescription drugs. I never knew what oxyicotin was, or its effect. I just thought it was just another excuse that Mike used to hang out with his friends.. I gave up on him. I moved on with my life.
Two years ago one of our close friends took his own life. The cause? Prescription drugs.
Mike finally went to rehab. He was clean for 18 months. Mothers day weekend he and our youngest son spent some time together making me a bird house… they made plans to go camping the following weekend. Our boys were so excited. That’s all they could talk about! He was to pick them up on Saturday morning. The boys were all ready to go at 7am.. their dad would be there at 9am.
9 came and went. I jumped to the conclusion that he was back to drinking and pain killers. I wrote off his inconsiderate behavior to his weakness. Later that afternoon… we found our Mike had passed away. Not an overdose… his heart stopped. All those years of using loratab ,oxi, had taken its toll. His roommates found him in his bed. He passed quietly in the night.
I spent time with him alone in the mortuary. I can’t hold back my tears! I have too much regret. The things I could have done different if I wasn’t so clueless.
As I sit here today I can’t help but beat myself up thinking that if I had only known… if I could of been supportive instead of critical. I made the choice to become the victim of his actions. When I left him he turned to those drugs to console him. He never went to heroin.. he had the money to support his habit. That and he his family had no idea. His brothers thought only that he would take soma’s and an occasional pain killer. To them it was ok. I was the only one that knew how bad it had become. I turned and walked out. I helped him die.
I don’t know if I can ever forgive myself, but I want to help others. If there is some way, I will be there. It is the only thing I can do to help Mike, and more importantly our children. It’s my passion.
Ron, thank you. In some odd way I feel that our connection is part of a greater picture. My crazy Red Headed Dad….glad for the
Warm Regards,
Nichole
I just wanted to tell you that you did such a tremendous job on this. I am the web administrator for an international organization called BACA (Bikers Against Child Abuse) and have a few hundred contacts in my email that I am going to email after writing this and encourage them all to see this movie. You deserve great kudos for opening many people’s eyes. I am so happy you found happiness at the end as well, much deserved.
Thank you,
Ann
Hello Ron,
I saw your movie, Happy Valley, yesterday and HAD to write you.
Actually I called your office this morning hoping to tell you in
person (I spoke to your producer) because I was that touched by it. I
just want you to know that the film was brilliant, touching, moving,
inspiring, emotional, heart breaking, informative and SO important for
EVERYONE to see. And I mean EVERYONE. Not just youth but adults too.
I applaud you and the efforts you took to put it together. I can’t
even imagine what it was like for you to go through this with your
ex-wife and the tragedy of her daughter. Wow. Wow again. And triple
WOW.
I just moved to Utah from Portand, Oregon 6 months ago and it’s
fascinating to see the trends of a mormon-dominant population. Most
of the trends are terrific….a few are not. And like your movie was
clear to say, it’s not the church or it’s teachings but the
individuals who create these negative trends. I too am an active
mormon girl but consider myself very open-minded and progressive in my
thinking. I thought you handled the whole church thing very well and
did not attack it in any way. It was more of a heads-up and an
awakening of real life issues that need to be addressed openly. I
think this film should be shown at EVERY high school and middle school
and EVERY church youth group in Utah as well as adult firesides. I
plan on buying the DVD as soon as it’s available and will show
everyone I know. I also want to show it at the stake youth conference
I’m in charge of in June here in North Salt Lake. Seriously Ron, it’s
time to open up everyone’s eyes!!!! You’ll never know how many lives
you may save by having them see your film.
Val B.
Ron,
Having finished watching your movie, I was moved and inspired by its simple and profound message. This is an issue that our community and us as individuals clearly must take a stand or it will become the center of many other lives. Thank you for taking a stand and using your medium to reach far beyond a small circle of awareness. Thank you again for entrusting me a copy of your dvd and will purchase a copy when it becomes available. I am but a voice of one, but with many we can be heard by all.
Sincerely,
Ed W.
Ron,
Is there anything you do that isn’t inspirational?!
Thank you for being such an incredible role model for this world.
I know I’ve done my internal work because it has brought me to ForeverGreen!
Thank You!
You are an incredible light.
Christine
Hello just watched your movie for the first time as I was crying for mecall I wonderd if she has some poeple writing to her. and seeing her and being there for her.I love your heart and i would like to about mecall and I would like to have coffee I am in east Idaho dont know if you ever get this way but would love meet up sometime and just talk. let me know thanks for time
ps if you could send me the address to mecall I would love to write her I think the ending was the key to Life and I also belive she is forgiven to and that God wants to use her to reach
BJM
My name is John, I am 35, a
John H.
My name is Sarah, I’m an 18 year old living in a small town (Logan) in
Oh and my mom is a teacher, she loved it and is trying to push for high schools to show it in health classes now!
Anywho thanks again!
Big fan
Sarah
Just watched your film last night with my husband who is a recovering addict that has been clean for 6 years. We live in
I especially could relate with the wife of the dentist and am so proud of her and what a fantastic example she is for all of those who want to sweep things under the carpet.
Thanks again,
Jill
Hi ron.I just watched your movie happy valley,I was in tears mostly all of the movie,that is such a moving story,one of the best movie’s I have ever seen.your vision was so heart felt.I can’t say enough about it
WCC
Hi Ron,
I saw your film
Kent P.
12.17.07 Negligent Homicide
Take a seat and watch the 200 junk food ads during Saturday morning cartoons – 8 of them every 10 minutes. On average, children will watch 40,000 TV ads per year. One fourth will sell candy, empty cereals, fast food, and soft drinks, all using creative and alluring cartoon icons to peddle empty nutrition.
The government banned all cartoon characters like “Joe Camel” from marketing cigarettes because of two studies published in JAMA. One demonstrates that 91% of 6-year olds can match Joe Camel to cigarettes, and proves that Joe is just as easily recognized by preschoolers as Mickey Mouse.
Just imagine Big Tobacco using “Joe” to pass out cigarettes to innocent children. WE WOULD BE OUTRAGED! Yet cartoon characters can hide behind drippy sweet smiles and offer toys in trade to lure innocent children to eat JUNK as their primary source of nutrition. Why is Joe banned and others tolerated.
Why do we allow this double standard? No wonder why our children think they are health nuts when it says “10% real fruit juice on their candy”, and when they think they’re eating fruit, its FRUIT –loops, crunch – BERRIES, and APPLE –jacks. Based on current results, this is negligent homicide at best.
Ron Williams is the CEO of ForeverGreen.
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